What Kind of Men We Are

Masculinity and its Discontents (MAID) is the blog of two men, Jamie Berger and Daniel Oppenheimer, who want to discuss what it means to be a man in America in the early years of the 21st century. It’s our thesis (because behind every good man there’s a good thesis) that men, particularly "straight" men, aren’t nearly honest enough with themselves or open enough with each other about all the many-splendored...

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Father-types

In one of the lost posts from our Masculine Dreams days, I proposed that a recurring feature of the blog could be the identification of various male archetypes, or sterotypes. I gave as an example a short preview of a Jason Mraz concert I once wrote, which I titled "Male Archetype #22": In high school, he was the soft-spoken boy who managed to make friends with the good-looking girls. Their boyfriends hoped that he was gay,...

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Wimpy White Guys With Guitars

In response to Dan’s male archetype debut, I offer lyrics from Larry Gallagher’s "Wimpy White Guys With Guitars” (click on track 9) the ultimate tribute to “fags” like Jason Mraz who, via serenade, have always wooed sensitive girls away from more traditional alpha doods: We’re taking over Serious, sensitive and sad There’ll be an open mic on every corner We’ll be writing songs about...

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Charles Barkely, Enlightened Male

In our earlier incarnation of this here blog, last spring, I offered the following post: In the car today, on ESPN radio, I heard Charles Barkley, the retired NBA superstar and outspoken (in itself a wonderful thing, as athletes, and – as the esteemed Daniel Oppenheimer puts it – "especially black male athletes, tend to be punished for being outspoken."), talking to perhaps the only two even vaguely introspective...

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Saint Charles the Manly

Might I add this snippet from the Charles, talking about one of his potential deficiencies as a governor, and how he might compensate for it: "I don’t know anything about a lot of things, but I would ask somebody and try to make a fair, honest decision for the majority of the people. Not the rich, not the poor, not the black, not the white," Barkley said. "When you get elected to public office, you’re...

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Johnny Mac

I wanted to throw in this iconic image of John McEnroe and propose him, for your manly consideration, as another masculine model to whom we might give ongoing consideration.

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