V-Spot: How Do I Tell Someone I Have a Sexually Transmitted Infection?
Feb15

V-Spot: How Do I Tell Someone I Have a Sexually Transmitted Infection?

Hi Yana, I recently found out after my 21-year pap smear that I carry HPV (human papillomavirus). It’s incredibly annoying that even though I’ve been tested all my life, a very common STI can still be transferred to me. It was also troubling that after checking a little bit more, HPV can also be transferred with a condom on, so it could have been from any of my sexual partners. My overall question is, how do I navigate...

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The V-Spot: Oceans Apart
Feb05

The V-Spot: Oceans Apart

Hi Yana, We met when we were 15 years old on the other side of the world. We were instantly attracted to each other and even made out on the first night. Saw each other over the years randomly on vacations, weddings etc. Tried to stay in touch and hang on to something we weren’t even sure was real. We’ve always had oceans between us and no way to cross it permanently. We lost touch seven years ago. Met each other again two...

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The V-Spot: My Coitus is Interruptus by Chronic Pain
Jan29

The V-Spot: My Coitus is Interruptus by Chronic Pain

Hello Yana, I’m a college student and I feel like I’m emotionally ready to seek out romantic and sexual relationships. The problem is, I feel like I have a lot stacked against me physically. I’m living with a pelvic floor disorder that requires me to do daily physical therapy in order to keep my vaginal muscles healthy, which can sometimes feel like an uphill battle. I am also on a very high dose of an SSRI (selective serotonin...

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The V-Spot: Where’s My Bleepin’ Orgasm??
Jan22

The V-Spot: Where’s My Bleepin’ Orgasm??

Dear Yana, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a couple years now. We’re just now starting to experiment in our sex life. I’ve known how to make myself vaginally orgasm for a few years now. And he knows what positions I need to do to make this happen. But it’s gotten to the point that if we have sex and I can’t have my orgasm, I get awfully bitter when he finishes. I have to fake a smile and pretend that it’s okay, but I’m usually so...

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The V-Spot: We’ve Got Different Sex Drives
Jan16

The V-Spot: We’ve Got Different Sex Drives

Hi Yana, My partner and I seem to be in different places when it comes to sex. We have fabulous sex when he’s up to it, but in general I have a higher sex drive and want to be more adventurous. We both have histories of trauma and deal with it in different ways. I’m mostly into reenacting/reclaiming the trauma, and he wants to avoid it. I don’t think either is better, I just want to know if you know a way that we can find some common...

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