The V-Spot: How Do I Get Better At Poly?
Nov14

The V-Spot: How Do I Get Better At Poly?

Hi Yana,I heard you on Dawn Serra’s podcast Sex Gets Real and really appreciated what you had to say about personal boundaries in new polyamorous relationships. I’m a straight guy and my wife just started sleeping with another woman a couple of months ago. I thought I would be fine with it, but then when they started having real feelings for each other I got super jealous and asked my wife to stop seeing her.Now my wife is really...

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The V-Spot: My Man’s Got Herpes; Now What?
Oct31

The V-Spot: My Man’s Got Herpes; Now What?

I’ve recently begun a relationship with a man who has herpes. It’s unclear if it’s HSV-1 or -2 or both. He has scheduled an appointment with his doctor. I’ve been tested and am negative for that, hepatitis, and all other STDs.It’s important for me to know all the types of physical and sexual contact that do and don’t have a high herpes transmission possibility. His hands, feet, chest? Interested in ideas and where they fall on a scale...

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The V-Spot: My BF Is About to Leave Me; What Do I Do?
Oct24

The V-Spot: My BF Is About to Leave Me; What Do I Do?

Hi Yana!My boyfriend and I are approaching our four year anniversary. He recently called me and asked if he could vent to me about what he’s been feeling. He got diagnosed with anxiety and depression this past summer, but stopped going to therapy when he went back to school; so, I was glad he wanted to talk to me.He told me that he didn’t know if he was in our relationship because he loves me or if he is just trying to keep me...

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The V-Spot: Let’s Do Munch!
Oct17

The V-Spot: Let’s Do Munch!

Hey Yana, I am totally new to BDSM [bondage and discipline/sadism and maso- chism]. Someone told me about a “munch” happening locally tomorrow night. They found it through the FetLife website and suggested I go. Do you know anything about these “munch” meetups? How safe are they? I am Northampton based, looking to connect with other BDSM folks. Do you have any suggestions on how else I can do this?— Curious Munchkin A “munch” is...

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The V-Spot: Help! I’ve DepoShot my Libido in the Foot
Oct10

The V-Spot: Help! I’ve DepoShot my Libido in the Foot

Hi Yana,I’ve been on the Depo shot for two months now and I have no sex drive. No desire whatsoever. I Googled it and it’s normal for women on the shot to feel this way.Do you have any tips or sex hacks to help me and my BF out? I’m sure he’s tired of coming home to me not wanting to do it.– Feelin’ Low on the Depo Dear Feelin’ Low,There are a number of reasons why you may be experiencing this noted side effect of the Depo-Provera...

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