The V-Spot: Is My Romance Dead?
Sep18

The V-Spot: Is My Romance Dead?

I know your column is mainly about sex, but for me, it’s all about the romance. I’ve been struggling for decades to balance my love of flowers, dancing, and candlelight with my love of a husband who struggles with intimacy (for good reasons) and who promises me these things after an increasingly strongly worded hint from me that it is the little things that matter. But he never follows it through. The passion, friendship …...

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The V-Spot: IPAs Run My Sex Life
Sep11

The V-Spot: IPAs Run My Sex Life

Editor’s Note: This column refers to sexual trauma responses. Hi Yana, My girlfriend and I have been together for four months, but lately I’ve been noticing we’ve only been having sex when we’re drinking. Nothing to put consent into question for either of us, of course, just a couple beers. I asked her about it over dinner, and she said, “It’s nothing you’re doing wrong, I’ve just hated myself lately.” I know she struggles with...

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The V-Spot: Too Many Orgasms and Leg Cramps
Sep05

The V-Spot: Too Many Orgasms and Leg Cramps

I have a little bit of a problem that most people wouldn’t consider a problem, so there aren’t a lot of resources for me. I am extremely orgasmic. Now, of course, I’m grateful for this and all, but it’s to the point that I usually come like 10-plus times during partnered sex. One drawback is, sometimes, I feel like I can’t focus as much on my partners’ pleasure when I’m experiencing all that sensation and I feel I could be having a...

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The V-Spot: My BF Won’t Go Down on Me
Aug28

The V-Spot: My BF Won’t Go Down on Me

Hi Yana, My boyfriend refuses to go down on me. As a bisexual woman who has been in long term relationships with women, it’s something I miss. I bring it up and he gets defensive about it. I’m always down to give the blow jobs and don’t believe in not doing so just because he doesn’t go down on me. He’s tight lipped about why he isn’t interested in it. He makes it seem like we would have to be together for a long time before he does,...

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V-Spot: How Do I Make My Orgasms Come Back?
Aug17

V-Spot: How Do I Make My Orgasms Come Back?

Dear Yana, I’m a single woman in my late twenties, with no relationships on the horizon. But that’s OK, because I have a super intense, cordless Hitachi that I’m in love with. Problem is, recently, whenever I have attempted to reach orgasm, it never comes. I get the brink, right before the fall, but I’m just stuck. This has happened with lovers in the past; one even suggested it was a problem with not being able to “let go.” Perhaps I...

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