V-Spot: I’m Feeld-ing Threesomes
Mar12

V-Spot: I’m Feeld-ing Threesomes

Dear Yana, In my post-big-breakup dating life, I’ve decided to start using Feeld [a dating app that’s basically Tinder for couples and singles seeking to be matched for threesome arrangements]. I’ve always been open to the idea of a three-way both sexually and as a triad relationship style. However, I identify as a queer/bisexual woman and am noticing that with so many couples on this app, both the man and the woman in a hetero-paired...

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The V-Spot: How Do I Find Someone Who’s Got Their Shit Together?
Mar06

The V-Spot: How Do I Find Someone Who’s Got Their Shit Together?

Hi Yana, I’m no longer satisfied with the type of love I attract. After my most recent heartbreak, and having to face the thought of getting back on the online dating horse, I’m willing to admit that something isn’t working here, and it might be me. I’m incredibly understanding and non-judgemental, but in the dating world that often leads to me accepting men into my life that may not have theirs totally together. My...

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Valley Advocate Podcast: The Lifestyle of a Sex Columnist
Feb26

Valley Advocate Podcast: The Lifestyle of a Sex Columnist

Yana Tallon-Hicks has been writing the Advocate’s sex and relationship column, The V-Spot, for seven years. It’s something she enjoys greatly, but she says it isn’t exactly the Carrie Bradshaw lifestyle some people seem to think it is. She is also a freelance sex educator. In our weekly podcast collaboration with Amherst Media, Yana talks about the state of sex education, how she uses cookies in her sex teachings,...

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The V-Spot: My Lover and My Bestie Are Dating
Feb23

The V-Spot: My Lover and My Bestie Are Dating

Hi there! I’m an early 30s, cis, brown, queer non-monogamous woman. My question is about a situation I find myself in with a lover and my best friend. This best friend is my Bestie, my chosen family. The lover is my first male lover in over a decade. (I was with women exclusively and have been in therapy for male-related trauma and abandonment stuff). He’s the first man I’ve been intimate and vulnerable with in that long....

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The V-Spot: Friends with Bad Benefits
Feb19

The V-Spot: Friends with Bad Benefits

Hi Yana, I have a conundrum! I recently started going on dates with a friend of a friend, and it wasn’t until our third date last week that I realized that, as much as I like them, I don’t think I’m sexually attracted to them. We’ve known each other for about a year and a half and have hung out in groups a lot. We have developed a very caring, intimate friendship and I feel something more than platonic towards them. But every time we...

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