V-Spot: A Question From The Mono-Poly Guy
Aug02

V-Spot: A Question From The Mono-Poly Guy

Hi Yana, I always thought of myself as a monogamous person who sometimes dabbled with non-monogamy, but lately I’ve really been struggling to determine just what my “relationship paradigm” is. It started when I was in a non-mono relationship that transitioned to a mono one. We tried to get our conflicting needs met, but ultimately we made the painful decision to part ways. I then started some casual relationships and developed real...

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The V-Spot: Do I Talk Too Much in Bed?
Jul10

The V-Spot: Do I Talk Too Much in Bed?

I recently started going out with this girl, but it already feels like we are magnets to one another (both inside and outside of the bedroom). But the last time we had sex an issue came up that broke up that magnet-like feeling for me. I’m someone who really wants to communicate about sex so I know how to make partners feel good in all the ways they want. So I was really confused when, during sex, my communication caused her...

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The V-Spot: He’s Monogamous, I’m Polyamorous — Can This Work?
Jun26

The V-Spot: He’s Monogamous, I’m Polyamorous — Can This Work?

Hi Yana! I’m currently in a mono-poly relationship. My primary partner is monogamous and has no interest in being with other people. He is reading More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert and is searching for resources when feelings of jealousy or envy come up. We’ve known each other for two years and have been dating for three months. I was already dating my current girlfriend when he and I started dating, and I have also...

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Should I Date Someone I’m Not Attracted To?
Jun19

Should I Date Someone I’m Not Attracted To?

I met a girl on a dating app. It was sort of an accidental swipe, but we started chatting and met up. She was really cool to hang out with, but physically, I didn’t find her very attractive. We kept talking and started spending time together. Now it has been a couple of months, and I’m having some reservations. Even though we really enjoy spending time together, I’m just not attracted to her physically, and it is...

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V-Spot: How Do I Ask Him to Rim?
Jun05

V-Spot: How Do I Ask Him to Rim?

I’ve been with my husband for a long time and there’s one thing in the bed we did kind of once that I’d like to do again, but I feel weird about asking for it. Basically, I want to be rimmed, but as this is something I would not want to do for him, I feel like I can’t ask it of him for me. I mean, poop comes from there! and yet, it feels amazing (we did it once on a drunken night years ago). How do I ask my husband for this? Is it...

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