In the shadow of the spotlight-hogging G-spot, deep in the invisible caverns of the vaginal interior, there lies a hidden gem: the A-spot. The new vaginal black, as it were, the A-spot (or “the cul-de-sac” as it’s sometimes called) is the new coital quest of 2011—everyone’s on the hunt. If the G-spot weren’t so steeped in sexual attention, it might just be a little jealous.
Ok, so the A-spot is no G-spot. But it’s easier to find!
Think about it this way—if your vagina were a luxurious, expensive mansion (where wild sex parties happen, of course), where would everyone park their limos? Why, the cul-de-sac of course. The horseshoe-shaped driveway that drops you off at the front door—and by “front door” I mean cervix.
Bad analogies aside, anatomically the A-spot feels much like a cul-de-sac on a dead-end street, a curved pocket you can feel deep inside the vagina, tucked under the cervix. Technically speaking, it’s an erogenous zone in the Anterior Fornix, the area in the back of the vagina into which the cervix protrudes. Orgasmically speaking, it can provide deep, deep sensations that, though it isn’t a magic orgasm button (or the next G-spot), can ramp things up a bit.
If you’re someone who especially appreciates penetration or is the type whose dirty talk focuses on words like “deeper” or “more,” the A-spot is for you. Because of its location, the A-spot is a bit of a reach—so enlist a partner or toy to help. Toys with bulbous, curved ends, originally designed to stimulate the G-spot or prostate, are your best option, and should hook towards the belly button. The same goes for fingers.
Like most other spots, the A-spot will be more accessible if you’re turned on and already otherwise sexually engaged. Personally speaking, I’ve found that the more stimulated the lady (especially post-orgasm), the more welcoming and open the vagina seems.
Reaching this receptive point is key with the A-spot, as it’s usually around this time that it reveals itself, like a trapdoor opening in the back of the vagina, allowing your fingers, toy or phallic object of choice to move deeper than you previously were able to go. It’s an adventurous privilege and an exciting feeling really, like discovering that—wait a minute—there is a pot of gold at the end of this rainbow! (And if you want to picture the accompanying leprechaun, well, that’s up to you.)
Once you’ve found this stairway to heaven, let go of the come-hithering habit you’ve fallen into with the G-spot, opting instead for direct, focused and firm pressure. Try “pumping” with short, strong strokes, fisting (if she’s so blessedly talented) or positions with her knees pulled toward her chest to make the cul-de-sac more accessible.
It’s important that you tread lightly on the A-spot at first because of its very close proximity to the cervix. Though I’m sure there are people out there who like a little cervix service, most women do not like getting this sensitive spot messed with. As one friend put it, “If you touch my cervix, I’ll punch you in the face and then I’ll cry.” (I’d second that motion, though maybe in the opposite order).
As with any new sexual experiment, check in with yourself or your partner about what does and doesn’t feel good around the A-spot, proceeding with great gusto only once you’ve found the right spot.
But how do you know you’ve found said spot? Unlike the G-spot or clitoris, there isn’t such an obvious physical signal that you’ve reached the A-spot. Some have reported feeling greater vaginal lubrication and interior wall sensitivity, while others describe a deep, fulfilling feeling.
Don’t get down if the A-spot doesn’t work for you (it is an acquired taste) and don’t rely on this spot alone for a great orgasm. Instead, treat it as a contributing player to one, and complement your A-spot attention with stimulation of other orgasmic points like the clit, G-spot or anus. If you combine them in just the right way, your sexcapades are bound to get an easy A.
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