Hi Yana,
My wife loves her [Hitachi] Magic Wand I got her. I’d like something else to use together. I have been looking at the [NJoy] Pure Wand or [a vibrator] by JimmyJane.
From some of the reviews I’ve read about the Pure Wand, it seems like this could possibly be a very wet adventure. Do you find this to be true in most cases? She has vaginally ejaculated on her own a few times with the Magic Wand, but we have yet to replicate this together. Any tips on using the Pure Wand? I’d love to be able to give her the wildest orgasm she’s had!
— Best Husband Ever
Dear BHE,
Lately I’ve been asking myself: Is there life after the rechargeable, wireless (formerly branded as Hitachi) Magic Wand?
I’ve spent my entire sex educator career avoiding absolutes. I’ll never call anything the best or the worst sex toy, sex position, or sex tip. Sex, sexuality, pleasure, and the human sexual experience are all way too fluid, varied, and unique to be setting ourselves up like that. I talk about things in some/many/most frames: some people vaginally ejaculate, many people get yeast infections from using lube with glycerin in it, most clitoral orgasms are achieved via direct, consistent stimulation rather than via vaginally penetrative sex.
For the majority of my sex-having life I’ve been a walking example of this some/many/most rule; I never liked using vibrators on my own clitoris. I write about vibrators constantly, have taken countless for test-drives, but I just never liked using them in my personal sex life.
And then came the rechargeable, wireless Magic Wand. And then came I. A bunch.
For people like myself and your girlfriend it’s hard to diversify when this latest, improved, multi-speed, pulsation-pattern-packed version of the classic Magic Wand (MW) is just sitting at your bedside, blinking its little green charged light like “Use me. Use me. Use me.”
The MW is hard to replace or supplement with another vibrator because it provides such a unique sensation via its strength and shape. However, it’s quite large; so it can be difficult to incorporate into partnered sex. The JimmyJane Form 2 is a great option because it’s smaller and easier to use between two people, but it’s also pretty strong for its size making it acceptable to MW lovers.
The NJoy Pure Wand is a curved, stainless-steel penetrative toy that doesn’t vibrate and is near-perfectly shaped and designed for G-spot stimulation and vaginal ejaculation. I’m recommending you go with this for a couple reasons:
1.) Why fix something that isn’t broken by getting your girlfriend a different vibrator when she already loves her MW? Instead, experiment with new positions that accommodate the MW, made easier by Liberator’s “sex wedge” pillow that comes with a special pocket to hold the MW in place.
2.) The Pure Wand can be used easily in conjunction with the Magic Wand. Wand-on-Wand?! Talk about wildest orgasm ever!
3.) The Pure Wand targets G-spot stimulation rather than clitoral like she’s already enjoying with her MW vibrator.
The Pure Wand is a wieldy 1.5-feet of stainless steel. So communication and care are clutch when using it. Lucky for you both, your girlfriend already knows that she’s able to vaginally ejaculate and the Pure Wand’s curve is primed to caress almost anyone’s G-spot. The G-spot is located about two-knuckles-deep inside the vaginal canal, on the upper wall. It’s easiest reached with a curved shape and “come hither” motion with fingers — something the shape and weight of the Pure Wand exacts and amplifies.
Angle the curve of the toy upwards toward her belly button, use lube with it, and manipulate the toy’s handle to rock the inserted end against her G-spot. Don’t forget foreplay! The toy is shiny and exciting, but without foreplay can be overwhelming or ineffective. Remember that many people need you to remove the toy entirely when they are about to vaginally ejaculate. Finally, the research you’ve done is indeed sound — so bring a towel. Better yet, double-down with your double-Wands by outfitting your mattress with a waterproof cover.
Yana Tallon-Hicks is a pleasure-positive writer and educator living in the Pioneer Valley. She has a website bursting with sex advice, workshops, and resources at yanatallonhicks.com.
