Strap-Happy

The perfect harness to your favorite dildo is like sunshine to your picnic, chocolate chips to your cookie, gel-based lube to your… you get the idea. Time to learn the ropes (well, straps) of harness buying. Do you only knock the vegan boots or would you rather...

Who's Afraid of the Big, Bad Vibrator?

Once upon a time, in a big bed far away, there was a princess who wanted to use a sex toy with her partner. But when she broached the subject, all her partners feared that they would be replaced by a sex toy! The first little partner said, “If you want me to...

Open for Business

With my sketchy “open relationship” track record, you’d be foolish to take non-monogamous advice from me. In theory, I get it. But in practice… So instead of my advice, I’ll give you a bit of an open relationship book report on Tristan...

Climb Your Way to the Top

“Drop those pants.” “Roll over.” “Bottoms up!” You Tops think you’re soooo special with your cocky attitudes, sexual demands and complicated rope knots. Well, let me tell you, dears, Topping is about more than just getting...

Hey!

For those sneaking peeks at the Advocate’s back section who maybe shouldn’t be: It may be hard to believe but I, too was born a virgin. Though it’s an amusing thought, I didn’t waddle around as a toddler handcuffing my stuffed animals and...