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by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 6, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Wow.(Again, photo byCallie Shell)
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Sep 23, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
[Dear readers,My wife Anja and I got in a big car accident this weekend and I broke my collarbone (the only major injury to come out of an accident in which had a blow-out and flew off the highway, then rolled a couple of times – we were very lucky.), so...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Mar 18, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I was exposed to Dan Reeder, a California blues/singer-songwriter type, through the Showtime show Weeds, which used his "Work Song" in a Season 1 episode. The song consists entirely of Reeder, harmonizing with himself, singing "I got all the fucking...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 6, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
We live in a world in which young women compete, on television, to be Paris Hilton's best friend. I watched five minutes. A young woman sat in a hot tub with Paris. In voiceover, the contestant's voice: "I really want her to know that I'm not here to...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 12, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Hello Dear Readers,Just wanted to drop you a line. I'm not around so much these next weeks. I'm in Albany with my mom, who's getting ready to leave this world. If you know her from my writing, you know that we have an etremely close, intense, mostly...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 12, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Hey, gang,I'm finally recovering from election night celebration and am ready to start celebrating some more. Please add a comment or something celebratory about this "historic" election. Add a link!I wish that more positive words were being used than...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Mar 26, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Lately I’ve been thinking about what’s offensive to whom and why. Not only is offensiveness subjective, but I’ve found that it’s often in great flux – that is, what people find objectionable depends on the situation (a la ethics) and can...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 3, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
There is one constituency that I don’t know how to reach: people like my old, dear friend Brooklyn Mike, who’s been posting here lately, who would never vote for McCain but just can’t support a bankrupt system by voting for a Democrat either. Without...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 17, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Mom and grand-dog Bo in summer, circa 2002, on the front stoop of our house, 471 State Street, Albany, NY. One brief note, strictly as a bereaved son. Sheila Berger understood me, my aesthetic, my hopes as a writer, an artist, a person -what I could be and make and do...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 15, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
This photo just makes my day. If I believed in God I’d say she blessed America. As Anja put it, "And she came in the front door." Amen to that.*** The other day an older man from our neighborhood (a new neighborhood, kind of – we moved just...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Mar 30, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
In the past week I've received several variations on this email, below, from "Kathlneen Galloway," "Ernest Graham," "Manuel Tipton," "Kermit Veles," and "Perry Sandoval." Above and below the text you are about to...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 7, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
What’s interesting/invigorating to me about this clip is differences in what I expected to be radical differences in perception of it. I (and a vast majority of others I’ve found when googling) see Barney Frank more than holding his own, taking Bill O to...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Apr 1, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Yes, yes, I know, it's just a commercial, but this kind of ad is a special pet peeve of mine; the message that it's okay to have gender stereotypes so long as they're for men and women equally always just bugs me. (It occurs to me that you never see the...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 21, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Strength is LameMale friends and family, men whom I think of as enlightened, liberated, what have you, with the best of intentions, have told me, through my mom’s dying, and now, after, again and again,to “be strong.” (Not all men have told me this,...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Apr 6, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Whoa, Nellie.
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 9, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
You’re 50 years old, white, male, Italian-Irish Catholic. Your dad was a union man, a Kennedy Dem. He became a contractor in the 70s, went bankrupt in the 80s, which he blamed on “affirmative friggin action,” and died poor, bitter He blamed your bad...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Apr 13, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Yesterday was my mom's memorial, in Albany. It was the first time since she'ddied (the first time in years and years for some) that I've seen many of her friends. They aremostly women, mostly ardent feminists, many lesbians. The memorial itself was...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 29, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
What happens in Arby’s Ad-team Meetings should maybe stay in Arby’s ad-team meetings?This is really disturbing, and hard to figure what went on around the table over in Creative.Makes meimagine I’ll be ordering penis at the Arby’s counter (and...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Apr 15, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Amazon seem to have dug itself a hole by ostensibly removing "adult" material from its sales rankings, but actually removing lots of gay and other lit while leaving items such as a Playboy centerfold book untouched. An Amazon spokesperson has attributed the...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 10, 2008 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
It’s just a flub, a slip, anyone could do it, but it’s scary, and SOLID GOLD:
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Apr 17, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Re my previous post, several people have not only asked me if I'm going to send a copy of Bo's Arts to 1800 Pennsylvania Ave., but have been shocked when I've said, no, I hadn't planned to. that I'd thought of it but it just feels kind of silly. I...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Apr 23, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Big thanks to those who voted for MAID in the Valley Advocate Poll. I was very surprised to see the blog come in third as, because of my lack of frequency in recent months, I didn’t think it worthy and so didn’t campaign at all. For those of you who may...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 1, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
For better and maybe worse, as the NBA Playoffs are upon us, Charles Barkley's career and reputation seem to be fully rehabilitated (after his drunk driving [and rumored solicitaiton too] arrest early this year). He's been back on TNT for some time now, and...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 6, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
This has bugged me for a while, but just lately it’s reached a head and now I’m all riled up, dammit! It started a while backw hen first I heard Air America hosts shamelessly shilling for a gold broker, all of them (Rachel Maddow, Thom Hartmann, Stephanie...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 8, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
"Sick" as in "insane," "insane" as in awesome!
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 11, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Because I just know, that's how. Because I can see into his soul and that his Christianity is pragmatic at best. Because I've read his book and his "finding" a church was a bout finding an organization through which he could get things done, plain...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 14, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Seeing as I don't think too many people go back and re-read posts here (and they don't simply fall below the current post as on most blogs) I'd like to repost a comment in responst to my last post in which I, somewhat humorously/hyperbolically, posited my...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 20, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
James Frey is continuing to reap the rewards of being spoken of by Oprah – now she's apologizing for the well-earned bashing she gave him on her show a couple years back. I was kinda obsessed with him and his duplicity for a while. Well, I've only been...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 22, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
just because it's hump day and we all need a little sumpin to get us over the hump:
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 26, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I think this commercial pretty much speaks for itself (although here's another blogger & his readers' takes that are pretty interesting). I guess the only part of it that has the slightest hint of nuance is the difference between misogynist and...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | May 28, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
It's not every day I get to quote a moral/political philosopher I know more than the tiniest bit about. But when the cali court's reaffirmation of prop. 8 came down today, I was reminded of something my philosophy prof dad taught me based on the work of Rawls...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jun 1, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I hope the author/artist will forgive me for posting this tiny version of one of his or her awesome strips. To actually be able to read the wicked funny words, check out nedroid.com to party and find out!
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jun 5, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
. . . I just stumbled across this piece, "Why I Didn't Report My Date Rape," this morning, by Moe Tkacik, whom I'd never read before. Without taking sides, and to be as bland as I possibly can in the name of just gettting this out there fast,...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jun 10, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
As best as I can figure, I was 8-11 or so when I became obsessed with Kwai Chang Caine, hero of the TV show "Kung Fu." (Hawkeye Pierce and Bugs Bunny also made that list, fyi.). He met so many of my requirements for a hero: he was sensitive, moral,...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jun 22, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I'm sitting in the airport, which is eerily empty, waiting to board a flight to Newark. When I get there, I've got a four hour layover (anyone wanna come hang out?), then off to Daytona Beach, of all places, where I and hundreds of high school teachers, grad...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jun 26, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jul 2, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
(the post is mostly about Michael, the poster's all about Farrah.) mamasaymamasamamakoosah. (if you don't know, you better ask somebody) The happiest, luckiest man in America on Thursday evening? Mark Sanford of course. His bumbling, rambling, crazytalking...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jul 9, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Sarah Gibbons over at Cherchez La Femme posted about the death of choreographer Pina Bausch this week. Sarah also mentioned Ed McMahon, Michael, Farrah, as well, but left out Billy Mays, Gale Storm, and, well, if you're into this kind of thing, the list goes on...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jul 16, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
On and off, I play poker online. Three weeks ago, while playing, I was looking up the players I was sitting with on the ole webbarooni (not worth going into, but there are ways to research your opponents as you play them) and saw that one of them, Amir Lehavot...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Jul 28, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
More on poker, and race. First off, Amir, from my previous post, finished well into the money in the Main Event of the World Series of Poker, coming in 226th out of 6,494 for $32,963. Not bad for a week's work.In the past few years, the Main Event of the WSOP has...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Aug 7, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Okay, so this is over the top, to be sure, but, ignorant of much beyond H. L. Gates' name and face and maybe a sound bite (byte?) here or there with Charlie Rose, and having not followed the arrest story very closely, I did me some late night googling, just to...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Aug 14, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
About a year ago I had one of my idiot-genius punster moments. Punsters, you know what I’m talking about, when you come up with a bon mot that you think is genius but everyone looks at you like you’re an idiot. (That is until your pun becomes, say, a...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Aug 21, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I imagine that if I knew any Ukrainian culture/history that this (video, below) would be even more awesomer than it is. (Thanks Chris Connelly for posting this on Facebook. I could spend the rest of my life watching great stuff that people repost on Facebook, like...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Aug 28, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
In a USA in which people are coming to town-hall meetings where our president is speaking strapped with automatics – would-be assassins or lynch mobs, you pick; at which these same people draw Hitler moustaches on the president's picture, scream that god...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Sep 8, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Hi guys,Ted Kennedy's dead, and maybe single payer is too, never mind justice itself, but at least people still decorate poodles fabulously.
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Sep 21, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
. . . to his communist socialist nazi kenyan-born BLACK agenda. Actually, all kidding aside, I was a little disappointed. Barack kind of turned off the charm for this one. Sounded a bit too much like a parent or a principal. Too bad, really. I want him to inspire the...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Sep 25, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I've been away but wanted to touch on a couple of week-old stories. First off, I both think Kanye West is (once again) a compete (if very talented) jackass and at the same time can't help feeling sorry for him, what with everyone booing him, his nearly teary...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 5, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
While I despise the self-congratulatoriness of those who've left NY or SF or other Big Towns for this here Valley (and those who've never moved to cities in the first place) because everything and everyone is just so awesome here, I also am one of those...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 9, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I went to see David Sedaris at the gorgeous old (and recently restored) Colonial Theater in Pittsfield. The last time I saw Sedaris read was about ten years ago, in Palo Alto. Back when we started this blog, I insisted on his being included in our "Mantheon"...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 13, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Of course, my immediate response was YAY! but Rush & Glenn Beck & co. are gonna have a field day with Barack's Nobel. More proof of Black-Power Commie Hitler selling us out overseas. That said, it's a great thing in and of itself and in that it will...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 17, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Below is Rachel Maddow's fine rundown of the whole hoo-ha. Unlike other mainstream-left discussions of the Nobel, seems less rationalization than explanation/exploration. Also, my old high school friend Kirk, who posts here sometime too, responded to my sharing of...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Oct 27, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
(Hey so I'm posting this above what's below it, about ten hours later, as if this were an actual blog in which you could have multiple posts on a page, one on top of the other, the most recentest at the top) There was a part I was too lazy to re-post (see...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 6, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Maybe not many of you are old enough or even if you are, are likely remember the above line from "Friends" by the once-popular, semi-talented rap act Whodini (their biggest hit besides, perhaps, "Hounted House of Rock," which is still revived this...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 16, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
. . . orI just can't bear to go into all the sicko anti-Muslim fearmongering going on on right-wing radio and tv yesterday and todayI've been having an interesting little Facebook conversation this week after reading one too many Yankee-bashing posts on Fbook...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 23, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Anja and I have been wracked-the-eff-up all weekend with a wretched wretched relapse of what must be that pig virus that everyone's talking about. But illness has one perk – TELEVISION (or, rather self-granted-permission to watch lots o' it). This...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Nov 30, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
At this point, I’m guessing most of you have heard about the “Pray for Obama” brouhaha. Even USA today has gone out on a limb to say it’s “not very nice.” Taking the disgusting “Biden ‘09” bumper sticker campaign...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 1, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Here's a video promo for a new show coming up by comic Louis C.K. If you're not comfortable with VERY ADULT, PORNOGRAPHIC language, don't watch this video, okay? Promise? Because you will be offended. Also, on a serious note, do you find this homophobic? I...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 3, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Today is (or "would have been"?) my mother, Sheila Berger's birthday, the first since she died last December 9. The picture is of a crystal she always had in the living room. At one point each day, it would project little rainbows all over the room,...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 7, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
I’ve watched and read a plethora of sports (and non-sports) morons joyously take Tiger Woods to the proverbial woodshed this week for his “personal failings.” (A refreshing exception was this editorial) And sure, I’ve repeated the above joke...
by Masculinity and Its Discontents | Dec 17, 2009 | Masculinity and Its Discontents
Here’re some thoughts my friend and terrific writer & blogger & thinker Elizabeth Gardner had on Tiger et al: My grandmother, mother and oldest son, Luke, have all been Tiger-worshippers for a long time. Luke's first two-wheeler, with training...